"I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer."
- Ralph Ellison, Invisible Man
"There is no final, satisfying way to balance our need to be known with our need to be alone. The balance is always uncertain and provisional; it’s always a matter of dissatisfaction, give-and-take, and sacrifice…It’s up to each of us to balance the risks and rewards—to trade, in right proportion, loneliness for freedom, explicability for mystery, and the knowable for the unknown within ourselves."
- Joshua Rothman, “Virginia Woolf’s Idea of Privacy”
"If you don’t love, believe in, and accept yourself, you will try to find someone else to do it for you and that can be as addictive as any drug. Consistently boosting your esteem externally can cause you to become a bottomless pit."
- Self Matters, Phil McGraw